This seems to be a popular topic in the comment section, so I thought I would address the subject here...
Many have suggested that Ve Ching should become a permanent part of our family. I just wanted to say for the record, that we're not looking to add any permanent residents (kittens or cats) to our household any time soon. We're not ready. When we are, I'm sure in some organic way, another feline will find it's way to us.
Yes, Charlene is enjoying spending time with Ve Ching. I don't think she's meant to stay with us, though. Charlene is just showing her how to play with big kitties, and teaching her about boundaries in preparation for her forever home, which she be may sharing with a cat older than she.
Thanks for loving her, and wanting her to stay with us. It would be great to adopt Ve Ching. She's a very sweet girl, and we do love her too. I just don't feel that's her destiny.
I'm with you completely, Laurie. You simply will know when you are ready to add another cat to your household. No amount of prodding, hinting, suggesting, winking will tip that scale. That day will happen when it happens and we will all celebrate with you. In the meantime, we will thoroughly enjoy the many adventures of Bean and her babies.
ReplyDeleteLike many of us in the IBKC community, I would love to see Charlene with a new sister (or brother?), but I know that Laurie has a great and infinite trust in what the Universe guides her to do (which is a terrific inspiration to me). Being Ve Ching's foster mama, I think Laurie has a much better feel for what is best for Ms. Ve, as well as for herself, Craig and Charlene. They probably also need some time and space after the loss of their beloved Drewey. So I know the perfect home will come for Ms. Ve, and the perfect sister or brother will come for Ms. Bean -- all in good time.
ReplyDeleteHowever, I think we all mean the best for the inhabitants of the IBKC home and we are just anxious for Ms. Bean to have a buddy! Be sure, Laurie, that when Ms. Ve finds her perfect home, we will all cheer, and whenever you find the perfect time and perfect buddy for Charlene, we'll be cheering that on too! :)
It's always seemed to me that kittens and cats find their way to the right people through fate and accident. I know Ve Ching will soon find her perfect people, and someday the right kitty will find you :)
ReplyDeleteyep. one day when you least expect it.
ReplyDeletea kitten will move in with you and allow you to give it a home forever and you wont have a choice, it will just be meant to be. maybe it will be a carbon copy of the lovely Drewey, or a butterbean butterball of fluff. but i've always found that the best way to find a new best friend is to let it choose you, then everyone is happy. :)
Sorry you had to address this at all... Getting a pet is a big deal because it means adding a new family member, same as it would to have a child or get married. If someone had recently lost a spouse or baby (or even if they had never had one at all) it would be a little rude to suggest that they should run out and get a new one to "replace" the old one. If we IBKC fans haven't acknowledged it before: your household doesn't belong to us, and certainly doesn't have to answer to us for major decisions, although we are grateful and blessed that you choose to share part of your beautiful family with us through pictures.
ReplyDeleteAnother voice agreeing that when the time is right, the feline who selects you will give you the appropriate notification, after consulting with the Bean. You, being the humans, will have little to no choice in the matter. :-)
ReplyDeleteI agree that the timing isn't right. You can't replace an older, much loved cat with a young kitten.
ReplyDeleteIn my adult life, I have only had two cats whom I chose as kittens. The others have 'found' their way to me as older kittens, young cats or senior cats. Regardless of their age, they were all worthy of love and a forever home.
My youngest cat Lucy, now 10 months, was dumped at 8 weeks old in bushland opposite our house, just 3 days before Christmas. I wasn't looking for another cat, but she found me, and she needed me ;)
The right cat will come alone when you're ready. I just hope it's an older cat, or at least an adult, who needs a second chance.
ReplyDeleteChaton, thanks for saving Lucy.
Well said, Laurie. I think people are very eager to see Ve Ching find the perfect home, and they know yours is a wonderful one. However, the decision to add another cat to the household is a personal one, and it's no one else's call.
ReplyDeleteI've got my fingers crossed for Ve Ching and her future family!
I've had about 20 cats in life so far(not at the same time!) and only one did I pick as a kitten. The rest just seem to happen to me and they are all perfect. Of my current 3, 2 were abandoned when the neighbors just moved away without them! Number 3, Andre, was a stray tom that showed up one day with a horrible leg injury. Fixed his leg, fixed his other bits, and now he is big mellow love bug.
ReplyDeleteI'm betting Ve Ching will find a fine home for herself (with a little help from you guys)and there should never be any pressure to adopt a pet. You're absolutely right in saying the decision has to be an organic outgrowth of the needs of the household. Besides, if you adopted a new kitten that would mean Charlene would have to graduate to the position of 'cranky old-lady cat' and I'm sure she isn't interested in that. ;)
ReplyDeleteWe understand. Let's face it, when yoo foster kitties, if yoo let yoor heart rule yoor head, yoo'd end up with 'em all ~ because they are ALL so darn cute!
ReplyDeleteBut fostering is a wonderful thing to do and we're guessing that each noo cat that stays would be one less space for a foster. So by limiting the permanent residents yoo can help more itty bitties. And they sure need the kind of loving help yoo can give 'em.
Keep on doing what yoo are so good at. Ve Ching is so adorable that a loving forever home WIll come along when the time is right.
I know exactly what you mean. It has to be the right cat, and sometimes they come at the weirdest times like the 4th addition to my household Boo, who arrived just after Xmas as a rescue kitten. All my cats have been strays, bottle babies, rescues...
ReplyDeleteI admire the work you do greatly, there should be more loving giving folk like you in the world xxx
Cats and smart humans know when the "Cosmic Welcome Mat" is placed at your threshold. Ve is destined for another home. Glad to know Charlene has someone to tutor for now. I hope it is not for long.
ReplyDeleteThe right cat will come along at THEIR right time, it might not be the time you thought but cats know better. Wait grasshopper for the right cat to add.
Until then, thank you for sharing all the felines in your house.
i wasn't suggesting that ve would be a replacement for anybody. :( i just saw these uber-cute pics and though maybe her adoption had fallen through for a reason. and now laurie has clarified that that reason is to get a little more bean loving, and that's all, which is OF COURSE their life and their decision. cats always do find their way to us, and if one is ever meant to, it will find its way.
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ReplyDeleteI'm sure we keep hinting at you adopting this kitten or that kitten because we all wish we could do the same. But we all know that the choice to adopt for life is a very personal one. You don't need to explain, though your explanation was very well written. We know you have a heart of gold and when that forever kitty does come along it will be right (and he/she will be extra extra lucky!).
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